Monday, September 10, 2007

Hello! my name is BamBam and I am an introvert

What is an introvert ?
(ĭn'trə-vûrt', ĭn'trə-vûrt')
A term coined by Carl Jung to describe people who reflect inwards and are drained by being in a social activity and need time alone to recharge. Simply they get pleasure out of solitary activities, given a choice they prefer to sit down and think rather than chit-chat the day away.

Is there someone who just sits down and eats his meal silently without participating in the conversation, that every so often has a smirk on his face that creates an air of arrogance around him ? do you know someone who, to your bewilderment, can be tucked away in his own corner and still come out as the happiest person on this planet without any social interaction for days on end ? then chances are that person in an introvert, and he is most likely not arrogant he just can't help being amused by the utter nonsense that comes out of some people's mouths when it is detached to their brains (muahaha yeah i countered my point i know :P)

It is highly draining to sit down for hours and hours talking about absolutely nothing, that makes me cringe to no end. yes evidently I do hate family gatherings cause you always end up being asked the same bloody question with the same "I care" attitude from people who really are just trying to be nice for the sake of it. Then to be tormented by the same topics over and over for the rest of your life. Now socially that comes off as shy, anti-social, some even go to the extent of labeling introverts as being agoraphobic(fear of public spaces) or some other colorful assortment of disorders, in actuality introverts are not necessarily any of that, they just value silence in the absence of something worth saying, hence when an introvert speak it is better to shut up and listen.

All my gripes aside (and being an INTP I can be really anal & taciturn "sometimes"), the reason I had to sit down and have this talk with one's self is the series of activities that I was involved in the last couple of weeks which shed light on some sides of me that I was in denial about. The reason for those according to my deduction is that currently I created my world to minimize annoyance to the extent that now am vulnerable to annoyances to the extent that it polarizes the way I should act with the way I act, that in a way is the reason that I feel that am faking and acting out my social interactions rather than living them.

With the amount of choice we have nowadays no longer can we live in the same world as other, we think the world is getting smaller but in fact we fragmented the world to even smaller pieces were our perceptions are irreconcilable. Then we profess bafflement and bewilderment and how can others react the way they do towards things.

Slightly loosing you there in the previous 2 paragraphs ? let me bring you up to pace with an example. Being in school you might have been the only one with the interests that you have, for the sake of the example lets say you had an infatuation with fury cuddly teddy bears. So in the past you were forced to interact with others because you had no other option. So you were exposed enough to annoyance that you became immune to it to a certain extent, people then were watching the same shows and hearing the same news. Agreeing or disagreeing based on a single reality. When you wanted to reach out to other fury cuddly teddy bear lovers, you had to expend the effort, and most likely it would be vis-a-vis. Which made the joy of finding them that more real and enjoyable. You had to be more accepting and tolerant of your environment and taking people as is, with all their flows and imperfections.

Contrast that with the reality now, you are no longer the only fury cuddly teddy bear lover.
blast up your computer and you can reach out to plenty, who are exposed to media that is dedicated to fury cuddly teddy bear lovers which shapes their perception of the world based on that perspective. They naturally presume others to atleast have the basic understanding of the culture hence when communicating to outsiders they truncate years of integration which results into them having starkly different views about things. Also for convenience the majority of their communication with other cudbears (thats what fury cuddly teddy bear lovers call themselves) is based on text which detracts from the life of the conversation and aids misunderstanding (boy how sarcasm on paper is hard to achieve!) . So as a result they end up interacting with less people than they would have in the past. Because "they just don't understand".

So how does that tie in with being an introvert (an INTP one non the less) ? well a lot really, mainly the realization that I need to raise the level of noise in my life. I am not going to be "friendlier" or be a chatter box that never stops talking about thy self, and am probably not going to join into a small talk anytime soon.
What I will do is just get exposed, no longer shying away from places I consider to be "not my type", no longer shy away from groups where there might be some people I loathe. Just be around different people.


ps. fury cuddly teddy bear lovers has some context and it is not purely random
pps. chats and IM's still rule and I love them for stripping the human out of the conversation, but will refrain when given the choice now *psyche*
ppps. I am not an emo.

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  • BB, thank you for that interesting piece of self-exposure! The AA-type title alerted me to look for the transition into why this was an issue. shoo clever, inta.

    Good for you! Balance is good, and the effort you make toward "Ë" will enhance your "I". I was a flaming extrovert, who hid from truth and depth behind excessive fluffy verbiage. I've learned how lessen my words, intently listen, and have embraced my inner "I". :)(Well, I thought I was changed until I saw how long this comment was :S)

    By Anonymous kinzi, At 10/9/07 16:33  

  • you are welcome as always kinzi, and thanks for the kind words.
    it is not really a balance since it is something that i accept i can't change, it is more of forcing your self to do something out of your nature in order to better urself. just like you described it although there is a good reason to stay in the comfort zone but u just realize there is a better rzn to stray out of it :)
    as for the long comments i love them i really do since they are usually fleshed out well especially from u

    By Blogger No_Angel, At 11/9/07 10:01  

  • I am a fury cuddly teddy bear lover as well ;)

    Actually I feel you no_angel. I have always been an introvert till I burst my bubble.

    It is a nice experience to go through and make you more appreciative to this world.

    Good post :)

    By Blogger The Observer, At 11/9/07 10:34  

  • hehe observer are we talking about what i think we are talking about ?? I like the care bears :P

    By Blogger No_Angel, At 11/9/07 12:44  

  • I guess we are :)

    Cheers man...

    By Blogger The Observer, At 11/9/07 14:13  

  • My favorite care bear is Cheer Bear

    Makes me happy :D .

    By Blogger 7aki Fadi, At 11/9/07 19:02  

  • By Blogger Téméraire V5.0, At 16/9/07 01:51  

  • i have a video when i was 4 years old singing i want to be a care bear :P

    By Blogger Tala, At 16/9/07 11:18  

  • standing on a fence and saying: "we demand a new playlist"

    By Blogger Tala, At 17/9/07 11:41  

  • HI you are boycotting your blog? Lai? :)

    By Blogger kinzi, At 20/9/07 14:05  

  • cause Kinzi i feel if i have nothing worth saying i better not say anything at all
    just went blank for the past couple of months :D

    By Blogger No_Angel, At 20/9/07 14:29  

  • BB: and what's exactly wrong with a little bit of haki fadi, you should try it :p

    You should blog, 3anjad, I miss your posts.

    Oh, and by the by, I knew what you and Fadi were talking about the 2nd day you posted this post ;). All I can say is that google and one bored curious person is a deadly combination LOL. I love google!

    OK, I'll shut up now...hehehehe

    By Blogger 7aki Fadi, At 21/9/07 17:21  

  • lol 7aki u always manage to crack me up, we'll give some 7aki fadi a shot :D

    as for u being deviously nosey (take it as a compliment really i was all giggly and smiley when i read u comment) i wonder if u guessed the right thing, or if he did either :P(there are 2 possible answers, the candid ones atleast)
    but big props for giving it a shot ... i thought ppl will let it slip :D

    lol ya 7aki, hmm now i kinda feel like dropping more lil puzzles in my posts from now on

    By Anonymous bambam, At 21/9/07 23:13  

  • oh and before i forget cheer bear used to annoy me since i of course lub grumpy bear :P

    By Anonymous bambam, At 21/9/07 23:17  

  • OK so I guessed one now I wonder what the other answer could be??

    By the way, I LOVE puzzles ;). Bring them on.

    Ok so now I have to know what the other thing is, you are KILLING ME

    By Blogger 7aki Fadi, At 22/9/07 09:04  

  • And oh, how can you not love cheer bear? he is so ..hmmmm... happy ;)

    By Blogger 7aki Fadi, At 22/9/07 09:07  

  • Bikafi man. yallah post something! Pretty please :)

    By Blogger 7aki Fadi, At 9/10/07 21:17  

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